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I love this <3
NOW HOLD ON A SECOND.
I hate these ‘compare people to fences/plates/glasses’ metaphors because they are SERIOUSLY UNHEALTHY MESSAGES TO PEOPLE WHO HAVE BEEN THROUGH TRAUMA
now I have your attention let me tell you WHY
people are flesh and blood animals in more than the literal sense. A ‘living’ creature is one that can repair and rebuild itself. Life itself adapts when faced with danger and changes to overcome it.
just as a cut or a broken bone can heal over time, so can emotional damage.
Do people lie down on the floor and give up on the rest of their life after the first heartbreak? Maybe they feel that way for a while but NO, they get UP, pick up their metaphorical pieces and guess what,
they don’t go putting them back together into some kind of metaphorical plate.
Humans learn. Humans adapt.
With each and every emotional bump and scrape they grow STRONGER and learn more about who they want to be as a person.
So, no, you don’t ‘get a perfect plate/cup/cutlery of choice again’
If we’re using this metaphor you break a plate and one day it turns into a MING VASE
BECAUSE TELLING PEOPLE WHO HAVE BEEN THROUGH AN EMOTIONAL/PSYCHOLOGICAL ECT TRAUMA THAT THEY WILL NEVER BE HEALED OR NEVER BE FIXED IS REALLY FUCKING UNHEALTHY SO NO DAMMIT.
(and yes I have been through my fair share of trauma in my life YES I have the scars to prove it NO I am not /broken forever/ and these ‘messages’ might be meant positively and supposed to discourage harm in the first place but they make me want to find each and every poster and punch them in the non-gender-specific junk)
Yes to the above.
Maybe a much better metaphor would be trees. If you cut a tree branch off, the other branches will reshape around it. The cut off stump doesn’t go away, but the change reshapes the tree, maybe into a less efficient, wounded shape, but also maybe into something greater and more powerful than before.